ADVERTISEMENT
When Assumptions Become Stories
The most dangerous guesses aren’t the quick ones—they’re the ones we repeat.
We tell ourselves stories:
- “They didn’t text back because they don’t care.”
- “She got promoted because she knows someone.”
- “He’s quiet because he thinks he’s better than us.”
These stories grow stronger each time we repeat them. Soon, they feel like facts.
Until reality knocks.
The Moment Reality Proves You Wrong
There’s a specific feeling when you realize your guess was wrong.
It’s a mix of:
- Embarrassment
- Surprise
- Relief
- Humility
Your stomach drops. Your confidence cracks. And suddenly, you see the situation clearly—often for the first time.
That moment can sting, but it’s also powerful.
Being Wrong Is a Sign of Growth
Here’s the part we don’t talk about enough: being wrong means you’re learning.
If you’ve never said “I was wrong,” it usually means you haven’t challenged your own thinking.
Growth requires:
- Questioning assumptions
- Listening instead of guessing
- Staying curious instead of certain
Every wrong guess expands your perspective.
Social Media and the Guessing Trap
Today, guessing has gone digital.
We see a photo. A caption. A short video clip. And we think we know the whole story.
But online life is curated. Edited. Filtered.
We guess:
- Someone’s happy because they’re smiling
- Someone’s successful because they travel
- Someone’s lazy because they rest
Behind the screen, reality is usually very different.
How Often We Misjudge Success
One of the most common wrong guesses is about success.
We see the result, not the struggle.
We don’t see:
- The years of failure
- The sacrifices
- The quiet perseverance
- The doubts behind the confidence
So when we finally learn the truth, we think:
“Wow… I had no idea.”
Exactly.
Relationships and Wrong Guesses
Relationships suffer the most from assumptions.
We guess motives instead of asking questions.
We assume:
- Silence means anger
- Distance means rejection
- Criticism means disrespect
Often, it means fear, exhaustion, or misunderstanding.
One honest conversation can undo years of wrong guesses.
ADVERTISEMENT
